I have made my first Malawian friend who I will call D-Bear in order to respect his privacy. We met at Nzazi’s bar and we have hung out a few times since then. He calls about 5 times a day mostly when he is waiting in line for petrol since there is a serious fuel shortage. Yesterday, he told me he thought I would be pompous because I am white but actually he thinks that I am quite nice. I have been asking him a million questions. How old are you? Are you married? Don’t Malawians get married much younger? Do they think you are a weirdo? And so on. I feel like he is a snapshot of Malawian culture.
D-Bear is my age (28), says he is not married; he lives with two nieces and two nephews. Three of the children are his late sister’s and one is his brother’s. The mother works in Mzuzu and comes to visit from time-to-time. We talk of mixed and increasingly complex family structures in the west but my experience of African families is that they are much more complicated. Life is hard here and many children are orphaned due to the death of their parents and/or other family members who were caring for them. With a population of 15 million there are 600,000 orphaned from HIV/AIDS alone and abject poverty. You will find that most households are mini orphanages within themselves. A popular expression here is “Mwana wa mzako ngwako yemwe ukachenjera manja udya naye ”which means “our friend’s child is your own”.
D-Bear works one month on and one month off because he is training to be an accountant and it sounds like he owns a small electronics shop and that is where he works. There is a shortage of foreign exchange in Malawi so when he drives to Tanzania for merchandise he will bring a couple thousand basic cell phones to use as currency. In university, I read that when the Soviet Union was collapsing people didn’t trust that the money would be worth anything. Consequently, people began to use cigarettes as currency instead because whether you smoked or not they did have a value. Before I came to Malawi my friends told me to bring as much US money as possible to exchange because the official rate is 164 Malawi
Kwacha for 1 dollar, but it is sold for 270 on the black market and the IMF is suggesting that it is lowered even further to 300. Good business plan but it takes money to make money and I have taken a vow of poverty.